This Thing Called Love

Love does not happen in fairy tales. It's not only felt by extraordinary people ... in extraordinary places and times. Love is not just fought by knights and kings ... brewed and spelled by wizards and witches. It is seen in the eyes of a mother who adores her sleeping child ...  seen by the wrinkled faces of a man who experienced life in a hard way. It is painted by artists ... put into music by musicians ... sung by singers ... and felt in the air.

But ...

What really is this thing called LOVE ... so viable and indispensable to best-sellers? Why is it that myriad people would be willing to spend much, even life, to have it?

Plainly, LOVE is one of the questions we have always attempted to answer in more than one way. This only shows that it is quite impossible to grasp and comprehend the totality of loving and of being loved. We question ... we try ... we experience. After getting hurt only then can we realize that we are in-love.

When you enter a relationship, when you commit yourself to someone, you must always bear in mind that you are sharing a part of yourself to a stranger who, by mere chance or destined fate, you happen to like and "LOVE". In doing so, you take a risk -  a great risk. He is a different person. He is definitely not your reincarnation ... not your identical twin ... and definitely, not a perfect being. This is why you should not expect him to be like you, to possess the same thoughts, to own the same emotion. You love him because he is he, and not because he is you. This being so, you must learn to accept him in his totality as a person. Growth is brought up by indifference or differences, which in one way or another, cultivate the relationship. It is also important to remember that trust is a vital element of any relationship, unconditional trust ... no ifs, no buts.

When you love, honestly love, you must be willing to sacrifice. There are times when the hurt go so deep, when the pain is almost unbearable ... that you wanted to give up. But loving is not giving up so easily. It is being there, when all have gone, when there is very little strength left, when it is too much to stand. Loving is Trusting. Loving is Letting Be.

There is really a big difference between two people who are in love in a matter of fact way. Both, might just be in a different plane of understanding, which may be a cause of misinterpretation. If he says he is honest with you, then don't kill yourself by believing that he's not. How do you know? His past experiences and his upbringing are not enough to doubt him. If he can offer his as-a-matter-of-fact way of moving to the best, then accept it. And if you can love him the romantic way in return, then do so. Please do not measure the exchange. Just be honest with each other and have an open channel of communication constantly where there is a free sharing of thought and ideas. Definitely, no ifs, no buts.

Always remember that nobody promised you a rose garden. Besides, roses got thorns, too. Just get the best of life. LOVE AND GET HURT ... GET HURT AND LEARN ... LEARN AND LOVE AGAIN. It is all a cycle, my friend. It is a cycle of being. Experience the cycle and feel like you are in a circle.

I hope you make sense of whatever thoughts I shared with you. You see, I'm in love, too.

I believe in the sincerity of your feelings. I believe in your sincerity as a person. Like any of us, you are capable of loving and worthy of being loved in return. You are a promise of life ... you are to have the best, too!!!

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God is love ... God is everywhere ... Love is everywhere.
 

HAPPY HEARTS DAY!!!--------------

(08.17.2004)