Friday, December 16, 2011

Letting Go

I'd like to go back climbing a birch tree. And climb the birches' snow-white trunk towards heaven, 'till the tree could bear no more. But then it stop and send me down again. Then we could have both be going and coming back - or we could do worse - we could be swinger of branches.

~oOo~

Letting go would be hard, I know ... but I really have to. I know it would mean no turning back, no regrets and no pointing of fingers. Everything should still go on, no matter what.

The world is complex, everybody is complicated, and all circumstances change. I already expected this to happen ... I know this would happen. Nothing is permanent, nothing is secure ... nobody is indispensable.

But, though these changes are expected, I was still shocked.

Sometimes I asked myself, "Have I done something wrong?" Perhaps I have, but, gee I'm proud - choosing pebbles is a tough job.

I know when it's time to let go - when it's  time to swing branches. It would not be easy then, but I know I can, I will, because I choose to.

If I stay ... the future's unclear ... the sky is dark with gloom. I thought the sun would change the air, but its brightness seemed to shy away that even the moon and stars fail to appear. Perhaps, somewhere near, the trees are stronger.

Swinging branches would not be easy then. I need to know if I can hold on to it for long. What if the branch I'm on breaks? Can I stand up after the fall? Or - would there be somebody ready to help me stand after all?

I know it would be hard to say goodbye to all those I hate and love. I could just lock all the memories, treasuring them safely, in my heart and mind.

For it's when the love fade away, when the going gets tough, and only the tough gets going, that it's time to let go.


(12.16.2003)

Monday, December 12, 2011

Cyber Love

Can love be present in a place where everything else aren't?

Take for instance two total strangers. Man meets woman in an unconventional way, exchanging "His & Hellos", "ASLs", "CTCs" and "LOLs". Sharing non important ideas ... sharing sweet nothings.
Then suddenly, guy decides to call gal a pretty nickname such as "Hon", "Love", and "Baby", and WHAM, they become a couple instantly.

Real names don't exist. Neither the age nor occupations ... faceless characters and unknown identities. No history to start with, and yet decide to indulge in an illusion. An instant love affair. Less hassles, few demands and financially beneficial to people with less or no money at all. From coffee to roses, hugs and kisses ... almost everything are made available. Just by merely pressing the keyboard, who can ask for more?

Guys who are not blessed with guts to court a woman in the real world, all of a sudden becomes a gigolo. Counting girlfriends from all corners of the world. Girls who can't get a real date due to lack of beauty and personality, can act and talk like she's a beauty queen when on the net.

Lies thrown back and forth as fast as one can type them, are all accepted. Welcoming philanderers and adulterers ... enjoying their temporary facade. Nobody takes each compliment seriously. Nobody gives great importance to decency. Emotions are toyed and being played around. Sarcasm lurks in every corner.

So, a stranger loving another stranger a possibility? A big joke maybe. Love is of no value and indeed very artificial in cyberspace!

Provers 20:6 "Many a man claims to have an unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find?"

- by Masay (December 2003)

Saturday, December 10, 2011

ASL, please ...

"Hi, ASL please?" is not a proper way to start a conversation, much more make friends. But with it, countries get connected, chit chats get started, sharing of different ideas made possible, friendship grow deeper, relationships grow fonder.

Making friends without being so friendly is possible now that technology is at its height. We don't need to look good and feel good to gain more friends. All we need is a Yahoo ID and an Internet connected-PC to get connected to any place under the sun. We don't need to make faces to show our sincerity or mood swings. All it takes is a click on the smiley icons, or merely type a series of codes to do it. We don't need to shatter the world with our giggles or thunderous laughter when a friend's being silly. All we need is type "LOL", and we're already laughing out loud. We don't need to give any information about ourselves if we want to keep it secret. All it takes is a lie, and nobody would ever know. We don't need to answer every questions -- we could just always pretend that we're "DC" (disconnected).

On the net, we can choose to trust anybody, or never trust at all. We can get angry at anybody even if we really don't mean it. We can start a fight without causing it. We can send roses as peace offering without actually getting to the flower shop. We can even say "I love you" even if we don't. Smacks and kisses keep on flying without taking any importance on who caught them. Pictures get sent and profiles get posted without even telling the truth.

Truly, chit chats on the net is foolishly misused and most of the time, unreliable ... but fun. Really exciting! We can be silly. We can pretend we're smart. We can be in any place we're not. We can be anybody, and anybody can also be somebody.

Chatting on the net has never been my idea of fun -- not until lately.

(10.10.2003)

Friday, December 9, 2011

First Step

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Heart don't fail me now. Courage don't desert me. Don't turn back now that we're here. People always say "Life is full of choices". No one ever mentions fear -- or how the road can seem so long, or how the world can seem so vast. Courage see me through. Heart I'm trusting you on this journey ...
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I am a TIGER. I have the rage to live and the teeth to sink into a plank of wood. Fortune doesn't motivate me. But my desire for passionate adventure and impossible challenges does!

Nothing stops me, neither eccentricity nor danger. I decide on my course of action. Nothing stops me; I listen to my heart more than my reason. My fearless enthusiasm motivates others. People would follow me to the end of the earth if only to take part in the wild dreams that I imagine each day to get beyond the reality and routine of every day life. This extravagance goes hand-in-hand with my need to command. I love it when people obey me without a word. Excessive in everything, my behavior betrays the force of my emotions. Passion and anger are part of my every day life. If someone tries to put me in a cage, I become crazed and would roar loud enough to dislocate my jaw! An insatiable adventurer, I build my life from the hazards and opportunities I encounter, grabbing onto the chances that are offered to me with an utmost unconscious audacity.

I am a charismatic Tiger. I am the leader of the jungle, the maestro, the captain of ships. I need action and independence to give measure to my talents. I make my path in a universe that is wild, anarchic and without hierarchy. Roads that have already been taken don't interest me. I can't conceive of working without passion. I refuse to bow down to logic, fixed hours and uniforms. A lord reigns in me!

I know that I am born a winner ... I am born tough ... I am born to lead ... I am born to do the first steps. I know ...

But I also know my faults. Aside from my unpredictability, and my not being very good at making others feel secure, I also feel coward at times. I also wince at the thought of journeying to an unknown jungle ... of doing my first steps ... of being a TIGER ... of just simply being me ... of pretending that I am tough enough to fight whatever danger comes my way ... of trying to protect my brood from other predators ... of trying to protect my jungle.

I know I should always do the first step. I hated it, but I have to. Nobody would do it except a TIGER ... and I am a TIGER ...

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One step at a time. One hope then another.
Who knows where this road may go?
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 (12.09.2003)

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

The Gods Must Be Crazy

While observing how my co-masterands were banging their heads and raising their voices with our professor to resolve a theorem in our Modern Geometry class, I just sit quietly, half-smiling, half-thinking ... simply asking myself, "What  are they trying to prove when the proof is already obvious ... why complicate simple things?" Then I thought, they must me crazy then. Aren't they aware that life is so simple that it doesn't need any postulates or theorems to support it's existence?

I would not be pursuing my masters degree had it not been necessary in my chosen career. A masters degree is one of the pebbles that I should have while I chose to be in the academe -- though, for me, it doesn't make any difference ... it doesn't give me any assurance of enjoying life as intended.

I know life is just simple ... with simple needs and simple source of joys, we would have been truly happy. But we foolishly made life complicated. Thanks to us!

We, most of the time, live as if we are gods. We always even wanted to play God. We invent things to make life simpler and easier, without knowing that we are just slaving ourselves by paying all the bills just to keep these things moving. We explored the outer space only to awaken our greed of power -- our greed for more territory ... for a bigger playing field. We study more in search for knowledge, only to find out that we're still ignorant. We wanted to please all, just to please ourselves.

We are always busy preparing for the future by outliving today. We have done almost everything, not knowing that we haven't made anything done. Aren't we crazy?

With all the things we have, can we now consider ourselves living a life? Aren't we just making a life out of our living?

If we truly are gods, we must be intelligent and wise enough to simplify complicated things rather than complicate simple ones.

Or -- are we just simply proving that we're "crazy gods"?

(12.07.2003)

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Stories

You have stories --- and I have mine, too. Everybody have interesting stories to tell. It might be stories of love, life or death. It might be of adventure. It might be scary, or funny. It's essence matters not on how happy it is, or who's story it is, but on the way it is being told ... the way it molded and affected life ... the way we're part of it, and the way it ended.

"When I was just a little kid..." would always be a perfect beginning --- that's how people usually started their stories ... their life stories. But I loved how fairy tales did it. It's "A long, long time ago, there was once a young princess ...", would always be my favorite line.

Fairy tales always started happily, full of hope, full of joy. It would have wicked witches but would always end with "and they lived happily ever after."

But what about the ever after? Are there no longer second rate witches on the loose? What about the witches? They surely have their own stories to tell, too!

Come to think of it ...

Why am I writing this for, anyway? Oh, forget it! I just wanted to find out how am I going to tell you my story. But it seemed that my mind is moving real too fast that my hand can no longer type what I am thinking. Besides, I think, I can never start my story with "Once upon a time, there was a young, beautiful and lovely princess..." because, never in my life have I become a princess, and I certainly am not beautiful and lovely ... literally.

Well, let's start it this way ...

I am 28 and I am going to be 29 eight days from now. I have done something in my life for the past seven years that others would consider "accomplishments". But sad to say that for me, it was never enough. I wanted more. Calling it "accomplishments" just doesn't fit, according to my own standards.
I know I wanted something that I cannot ever define ... I wanted that "je ne sa quios". It could be fortunes, but deep inside, I know that it's not. I have never measured man's success by money alone.
It's not enough. It isn't important.

I got job, though decent enough and I am proud of it, but it never offered me the security I need ... it never offered me a chance to live in style. And I just do not feel like working right now -- that is why I am talking nonsense. See what I mean?

Hmmm, how am I going to end this?

Never mind. It's not important. It doesn't even have a good start. Or - has it started yet?

Funny thought LOL.

(date unknown)

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

To Remember Me

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The day will come when my body will lie upon a white sheet neatly tucked under four corners of a mattress located in a hospital; busily occupied with the living and the dying. At a certain moment a doctor will determine that my brain has ceased to function and that, for all intents and purposes, my life has stopped. When that happens, do not attempt to instill artificial life into my body by the use of a machine, and don't call this my deathbed, let it be called the bed of life, and let my body be taken from it to help others lead fuller lives.

Give my sight to the man who has never seen a sunrise, a baby's face or love in the eyes of a woman. Give my heart to a person whose own heart has caused nothing but endless days of pain. Give my blood to the teenager who was pulled from the wreckage of his car, so that he might live to see his grandchildren play. Give my kidneys to the one who depends on a machine to exist from week to week. Take my bones, every muscle, every fiber and nerve in my body and find a way to make a crippled child walk.

Explore every corner of my brain. Take my cells, if necessary, and let them grow so that, someday a speechless boy will shout at the crack of a bat and a deaf girl will hear the sound of rain agianst her window.

Burn what is left of me and scatter the ashes to the winds to help the flowers grow. If you must bury something, let it be my faults, my weakness and all prejudice against my fellow man.

Give my sins to the devil. Give my soul to God. If, by chance, you wish to remember me, do it with a kind deed or word to someone who needs you.
If you do all I have asked, I will live forever.
- Robert Test (I will  Live Forever, A Semi-Religious Funeral Reading)

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I am feeling strange -- I am not dying now am I having an illness -- I just felt like something within me is trying to fathom the meaning of life ... especially my life. Am I going to die today? Or tomorrow, perhaps?

I can't help but wince at the thought. I still don't want to die young. I am not ready. I don't want to leave my love-ones without showing them hoe much I love them in my own special ways ... ways that they might not understand ... ways that might not satisfy them

Life is so short, I know. Our breath is only lent to us by God. Each day, whether we like it or not, we are postponing the inevitable death that might claim our life at any moment. While still alive, we are given the opportunity to experience everything -- happiness and sadness, love and hatred, ups and downs -- everything that are considered as the sweets and spices of life.

Each day is an exciting adventure. One day we laugh, the next day we cry, and then we laugh again.
It's so amazing how it made us insane. Living ... loving ... dying ... seemed to be our game, and life as our playground.

Each day is an undending battle, thus making us in constant war against safety from death. Many times we fought bravely just to extend life for a day or more, whether noticed or unnoticed. Perhaps to untangle all the complicated strands and connect the loss ends of what we are and who we are?
Whether or not we are living our life to the fullest, what mostly matters is whether we know what we are here in this world for. Would people remember the days while we are still alive? Or would they just bury us into oblivion ... forgotten ... unnoticed?

No? Yes? Sure? Why not? Maybe?

Which?

I really don't know. I am confused.

But one thing is for sure ... when death comes my way, I don't want it to be painful. I want it to be a sweet rebirth. And most of all, I want you to remember me like what Frost wanted. That way, I will live forever.

(09.26.2004)

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Saturday, October 1, 2011

The Journey

I am almost late. But the car seemed to move at a very slow pace. The passengers beside the driver looked exasperated. In front of me, a man in a dark suit kept on glancing at his Rolex watch. The little boy wore a silent frown as if trying to fathom the reason for such delay. The lady with the basket, full of fresh fruits, already "Tskd." then times. Much worse, I am beginning to feel frustrated ... so fed up.

Didn't the driver know that his passengers were trying to reach their destination on time, if not ahead of time? Didn't he know that they're already late? Didn't he know that they're so busy?

Then the car suddenly turned out of the way. The exasperation increased a little bit more. Somebody asked what's wrong? The driver didn't answer. He just kept on driving so damn slow ... so hatefully slow.

"Oh, God, what is he up to?" Didn't ke know the exact direction?", I asked silently. I am now ready to burst. I want to get out of the car and ride another ... but I noticed that I'm almost on my way ... I'm almost there. I know it would be foolish to let go. I've already spent hours pretending that everything's fine ... that I could still arrive on time ... with the same perspective and enthusiasm I have when I first glanced at the early morning sun.

Then a lady 'round the bend waved her hand. "Oh ow, another victim!", I mused.

Isn't this scene familiar?  Of course it is!

It's like LIFE, isn't it?

(10.01.2003)

Friday, September 30, 2011

Ayer, Hoy y MaƱana

"Yesterday is today's history. Today was yesterday's dream. Tomorrow is today's vision."

-----oOo-----

Wasn't it just yesterday when I loved waking up early in the morning to smell the cool fresh scent of the flowers in my garden -- feeling so carefree --- so innocent? Wasn't it just yesterday when the scent of the burnt mango leaves soothed my tired countenance? Wasn't it just yesterday when I imagined myself living quiet like today?

I really marveled at how swift time passed by.

Now, I am facing today -- knowing that it would be tomorrow's yesterday. Would I ever love remembering tomorrow everything that would happen today? Would living one day at a time do the trick? Would tomorrow be great just like today's yesterday?

How can today become a wonderful tomorrow's yesterday? Would it be like yesterday's tomorrow?

Perhaps, everything I asked today can be answered tomorrow, as some of yesterday's questions were already answered today.

What I am seeking now is the answer why we really have to go through a lot of letting go and holding on. To make us stronger? To make us tougher? What for? To prepare us for tomorrow's troubles and cares that would be a lot harder than what we are facing today? Just to have something adventurous to recall when today is already tomorrow's yesterday?

If that's the purpose then, why should we try to be tough and strong today when we know so well that we would just be entitled to solve another set of problems tomorrow -- problems that would be harder than yesterday?

What if yesterday's vision do not happen today -- and today would not be tomorrow's grandest history? Would tomorrow be so scary then? Or, are today's fears greater than tomorrow's troubles?

Come to think of it.


(09.30.2003)

Friday, September 23, 2011

Crossroads


Yes, I am tired! But what else could I expect anyway? I've always thought that another year of all these strains and I would have cracked up. We all would have.

But I haven't! I am tough! Who isn't?

I remembered the rows of serious faces bent over examination papers day after day. Outside the examination rooms, there was sunlight and green trees ... noise and traffic. Inside, there was the raise against time, the scrapping of pens, the worried coughs, the sweaty foreheads, the shuffling feet, the rows of desks ... the weighing of the balance, the found wanting. No matter how brilliant you've been in editing a newsletter, in producing a play, in designing a project; no matter how original you seemed with all your decisions; no matter how well you have played the coolest music or the popular sports or at the school politics, it was the same test for all, and the same lesson: first-rate brains without a penny would get you no further than those whose fortune is enormous even with second-rate brains. It was the day of painful self-revelation, of regret for some, of hope for others, of frustration ... of submitting your inner pride to the outside verdict.

Well, that is all over anyway; the written papers and the orals, and the posted papers of successes and failures. All over, thank God! Another chunk of life put in a box and labeled: "Past. Not to be reopened. No third attempts."

But here comes another chunk in its way, for other periods in life did not end so neatly, so completely, with an examiner's clear mark to tie up all the loose ends. Hell's bells! One thing's over, and another begins.

Doesn't life ever become simpler? Would it not stop being so harsh - so cruel? Doesn't life's crossroads ever have an end? Are all crossroads barbed wire-fenced?

Though life is really what it seems, one thing's for sure - all those crossroads brought me so many fears, causing my bones to shiver, but the child-in-me braver. It brought me countless joys, bringing forth funny moments spent with my friends and loved-ones, brightening the gloom of gloomiest day. Most of all, it brought me challenges that made me tougher and stronger -- ever wanting for more, grasping tighter and higher beyond my reach.

Should I ever ask for more? Haven't all those thorny crossroads brought me all the wonderful treasures in life -- treasures that are so priceless and worth keeping -- not mere vanity -- making me whole?

'Been thinking ... if I would go straight on the fast lane, would I ever know what "living a life" means? Or, would I ever be sure that the road ahead is not a dead end?

How will I know then? I don't have a choice but to turn at the nearest bend!

(Isn't it a little bit of sour-graping?)

- Fin -

(09.23.2003)



Friday, September 9, 2011

Cool Change

Now that my life is so pre-arranged,
I know that it's time for a cool change.



It's time, it's time, it's time for a cool change . . .


~ o ~ oOo ~ o ~

Everything changes. It's inevitable! It's necessary! It's cool! It's called metamorphosis!
 
From an ugly caterpillar to a beautiful butterfly ... that's what I should be. Isn't it great? Isn't it wonderful?

Hovering from flower to flower ... from garden to garden ... seeking for the sweetest nectar ... I could fee the cool fresh air as it touches my wings! What a euphoric feeling! What a blessing! How I love the change and the freedom it brings!


But suddenly, Mr. Storm came. It lapped at my pretty little wings -- tearing them into pieces. I could no longer fly! Oh, where should I go? Behind the welted flowers? Behind the tattered leaves? Behind the fallen trees?

It can't be! It should not be! It's cruel! It's awful! It's unforgettable!
Then the storm died down! The sun began shining! Giving comfort to my sagging spirit. I thought it could heal the pains. But it grows hotter ... burning my skin ... turning my wings into ashes. I thought it's already the end ... but then you came.

You became my friend. You made me whole again. You sheltered me from the heat of the sun. You gathered daffodils for my body that is now so wan. How wonderful it felt ... with you so very, very near. Isn't it great to have you as my friend?

Now I am whole again ... savoring the coolest change. With my wings turning stronger and lovelier, I know I can fly again -- higher than what has been. And that's because of you my dearest friend. You taught me how to be a  beautiful butterfly again.

Then, together we realized that the garden is no longer secure despite the promises the weather brings. Spiders and ant eaters are everywhere ... and so we must part again.

Though we're just passing by, I'm sure you will always be my friend. Aloha! 'Till we meet again!

I wish you the best of luck ... and the coolest of all cool change!


(09.09.2003)
For  my dear friends once upon a time in STI

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Free Cell Talk

The object is to move all the cards to the home cells. To win, make four stacks of cards on the home cells, one for each suit, stacked in order of rank, from lowest (ace) to highest (king).

Note: It is believed (although not proven) that every game is winnable.



'Been playing this game for seven years, three months and eight days now. Still I am not contented with my wins. It's not enough. I know it would never be enough -- nothing is enough for me.

Have I not thought this game as an easy game? Have I not tried to prove that every set is winnable? Have I not bragged that I was born a winner?

I was wrong ... very, very wrong!

Perhaps I forgot to look for trouble spots during my first move ... forgot to consider that aside from my aces, I should also need to consider other aces which are partially and wickedly hidden behind cards. I was blinded with the sequences of the lucky cards at the bottom of the column -- thinking that I can move it towards home cell with just a snap of my fingers and two clicks of the left mouse button.

The I was wrong ... very, very wrong!

I have already tried to keep some of my free cells unoccupied upon knowing that they are also valuable -- but still, something happened -- I don't know how it started. I thought everything is going as planned. I thought I can win this time.

But then again I was wrong -- very, very wrong!

Now I am again staring at the stock of cards in front of me. I wanted to lay them down to draw new ones. But, the fact that I already stacked several precious cards for a period of time, I hesitated. Perhaps, I still have to exert my gambling prowess a lit bit more.  Perhaps, I could just half-close my eyes and pretend that everything is still fine ... that the cards in front of me are the lucky ones ... and the players watching me are "real" players ... players who really know the rules of the game, not mere counterfeits, not tricky JOKERS.
I hope this time, I won't be wrong!

What if I am, once again, wrong? A single click of the button can do the trick for me.  I will just play solitaire ... or backgammon ... or checkers ... or minesweeper for a change! Anyway Microsoft and the Internet offers a lot of virtual games more challenging and more rewarding than Freecell.

This time I will never be wrong!

Besides, all games are winnable and a cool change doesn't hurt. Don't you think?


(09.08.2003)



Saturday, August 6, 2011

Pebbles

There he goes again ... pausing ... staring ... counting ... recounting. What is he up to?

That man, a drifter, clod in dirty clothes ... too rugged to be decent ... and too intelligent to be foolish. What is in his mind? What keeps him on that sidewalk?

Pebbles? Just pebbles? What for?

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Every Tuesday and Thursday on my way for work, I always pass by this odd looking man in his 50s, sitting on the sidewalk near a well-known college in the city. He seemed to be engrossed with the pebbles in front of him ... staring ... blinking his eyes ... shaking his head ... something like mentally counting them, then regrouping them, and counting them again ... oblivious of the traffic around him.

At first, I thought he was just passing the time. But it had been a habit. Two months has passed since I first saw him and still, he seemed to follow a pattern - sitting in the same manner, in the same location, and doing the same thing every morning at seven fifteen.

"What are those pebbles for?", I kept on asking myself.

Perhaps those pebbles represent something. It could be of opportunities, of broken promises, of regrets, of happiness or sadness, of good luck or bad luck, of wasted times and of fruitful ones ... of anything worthwhile or useless under the sun.

Then, I found myself counting my pebbles. How many opportunities have I wasted in exchange for the chance to be in the academe? Not just one, but two (I sometimes think it foolish, my family and friends even think so). How much money would have been in my bank account have I not chosen to be an educator? It would have worth several thousands.  How many of my students landed a high-paying job than mine? Too many! How many waking moments and free times have I spent just to make sure that I would be ready for the next day's lesson? Aplenty! How many strategies have I applied just to bring my students up to my standards? Several! Any regrets? Only a few ... to few to mention.

Not once in my life have I dreamed to be an educator - or an instructor (I would prefer the term than "teacher" because I know I do not have much patience - there's a lot difference). I landed my first job in the academe seven years and three months ago, not by choice but by chance. My first year in the academe seemed like a limbo. I hated students who do not have the perseverance I once have as a student ... of pretending that I understand them while faking to be patient ... responding to their "Good morning, ma'am" when my morning was not that good. I hated the need to work even late at night and even during weekends, preparing lessons for the next day without overtime pay.

Then I landed a permanent job in the government - twice ... with higher pay, more benefits and exposure, awesome desgnations ... but BORING ... not as challenging and as rewarding as the academe.

Then I found myself trying to find a way out - trying to find convincing reasons to tell my family and friends if they would question my unexpected resignation. And so I left the permanent post.

That pebble would have been a real treasure for others - it would have been for me, too, had I not been so stubborn and idealistic.

For now, being an educator has become my choice (though I could not promise that it would be forever - it depends). It really is the "noblest" profession - something to be very proud of. "Noble" here means high in excellence and worth, magnanimous and illustrious (dictionaries said so) - not what other people think. It is like an uncut diamond that only expert jeweler knows the real worth. It means sacrifice and mixed emotions ... of smiling after getting angry ... of getting hoarse voice and aching feet because of the day's activities ... of joyful tears when you see your students marching up stage to receive their diplomas ... and of tearful joys upon knowing that they already got a decent job. It also means participating in the stimulating and exciting battle of wits with your co-educator ... discussing endless and uncatalogued topics with them ... sharing classroom gags and bloopers with them ... and laughing and crying with them ... without any false pretenses and rivalry. It simply means "everything" I hoped for in a job.

It realy is one of the most precious pebbles I have. It's priceless ... worth keeping and worth remembering ... worth counting and recounting for. Definitely worth my time - worth the other pebbles I have set aside.


(09.06.2003)
Published in the Faculty Notes Section of Faculty STImuli
Vol. VII, No. 1, October 2004


Saturday, July 30, 2011

Gamblers

... If you're gonna play the game board, you gotta learn to play it right. You've got to know when to hold them ... know when to fold them ... know when to walk away ... know when to run. You never count your money when you're sittin' at the table. There'll be time enough for countin' when the deal is done ....

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Have you ever gambled? Or - have you ever played a game?

I have! It's not because I do not have a choice, but I do!

May 26, 2003 - I've already shopped and packed the things I need for the two-days convention in Cebu City. Excite? Nope! Certainly not! Who would be when I knew so well that two's not a company, and three's certainly not a group? It was so sad to think that the rest of my colleagues can never be with the three of us in the Queen City of the Pacific - just because they have already committed their vacation time with their families, or for whatever reasons.

With a sagging spirit, I almost missed the van bound for the sea port, and even almost missed the ship. But who cares? I was not really looking forward to crossing seas just to meet new faces, just to collect new experiences, much less to listen to boring lectures, perform social function in a Caribbean or Hawaiian attire, and play childish games.

But the first day of the convention passed successfully. Fortunately, the turn of events renewed my blurring hues - painting a smile in my face. Resource speakers made my brain burped with timely and useful information ... acquaintances filled my list of friends ... and experiences were worth enough to be carefully treasured at the back of my mind.

The second day came. It was fun time for all of us. We deserved it! Who doesn't?

Wearing a sporty attire, I was really looking forward to participating in all the games. I even grimaced at the thought of playing - which for me is bizarre. During my school years, playing whatever game is the last thing I would ever do. I would rather stay home and bore myself than participate with such activities. I would rather memorize and practice lengthy oratorical piece, than expose myself under the sun and be filthy with perspiration. If trapped, I would just volunteer to organize or facilitate rather than participate. But everything changes. I just wanted to feel alive and energized that day.

As expected, the activities progressed with so much fun. Vibrating laughter, sweet giggles, and childish mirth filled the convention room. Tearful joys and joyful tears were in every one's faces. Some group members looked nervous carried with great ease (or was it?) by their co-members as they passed through the black hole (that wasn't black at all), as if they were in a flying trapeze.  All players sure looked funny in a blindfold - trying to understand their leader's instructions,holding each other tightly (not because they like it, but because they're trying to protect their line from breaking, and their balloons from bursting) as they trudged their way to the unknown path. Other members even frowned as we tried to carry together the small balloon that served as an "atomic bomb" - as if it really was, and as if it was really that heavy, perhaps thinking which way to go, so as not to drop it for it might "really" explode if we do. Other teams even cheated (without their knowledge perhaps?) as if it was part of their strategic plans just to win the game. Our group even repeated a game because we did not follow the rules (or was it because we didn't fully understand it?). We even wasted so much time waiting - not because we want to, but because it was the only way. I even felt so foolish solving the mind puzzles and asking the answer for 8 times 6, where in fact, I am already in the third term of my graduate studies in teaching Mathematics.

The games ended at last. Everybody were pleased, energized, and looked like having so much fun. Winners wore glowing "smileys" on their faces as they raised their chins up with great pride. Losers, a silent frown, though pretending just to feel fine, as if they don't want to do it again ... just to redirect some unfair rules and to regain what is lost.

Our team was not declared the winner, and definitely not the loser (we still got something even though we were the last to finish the game). What ever prizes we got and shared is of no importance. What matters most was the fun that we shared together, and the lessons that we learned out of playing and losing that friendly competition.

What I treasured most was the chance to play like a child again (though sometimes we were constantly reminded that we were instructors when we tried to break some rules). I even realized that "living a life" is like playing a game -- we have to take calculated risks ... we even have to gamble.

We, at times, even have to trust unfamiliar faces, places or events (blindfolded or not) to guide us through equally unfamiliar waters. We even have to shout a shrieking "sure na!" even if we're utterly sure that we're not.

Though life isn't always fair sometimes, and though it doesn't always offer you the right chances at the right place and time, you still have to take part, no matter what happen. You simply need to know the rules, not to discover ways to break them, but to follow them. You should also have sufficient grace to face life's funny moments, and enough courage to brave yourself through life's black holes and head-breaking puzzles. You should always be prepared to smile, though with heavy heart, for it is not on how many life's battles you've fought that counts, but on how you faced life's problems with dignity  and pride.

With the right perspective towards life - how to play it ... how to be a part of it ... and how and when to shout "Sure na!", and even say "I quit!" - we will surely be winners. That's our right. That's our privilege. That's the way gamblers play in this game called LIFE.


(07.23.2003)
Published in the Feature section of the Faculty STImuli
Vol VI, No. 2, September 2003 issue

Saturday, July 23, 2011

The Crash

Below is a story I once wrote, and is intended to be a Declamation piece for our College's Foundation Day last August 30, 2000.  The story just ended up in my filling drawers since it was too long to be presented.

Hence sharing it here at last! It would be a waste if I won't post it here, too.


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THE CRASH

 "Calling all passengers of 747, please proceed to Gate 5."

The electronic glass doors in the Paris Airways' futuristic terminal slid open as if at a silent command, as I hurried through it, determined to get away from the city and return home.

I was exhausted from the round of interviews that was held during the mad week of the Mid-Summer Midnight at the Grand Luxury Hotel, in which, I represented as one of the research journalists who were lucky enough to capture important facts for the CNN news. I wanted nothing more than to check in at my hotel and collapse, first in a warm bath and then in my comfortable bed.

In the surge of people, mostly wealthy tourists who flocked to the city, I collided with a man dressed all in black with quick, self-conscious glances, cursed with a bulbous, veiny nose, a splotched and warted complexion, and a slack, fleshy mouth, encompassed by pendulous jules. The man truly played beast to the stunning woman with him, who is younger to be his wife and seemed odd to be his daughter.

Then, "Calling all passengers of Flight 747, please proceed to Gate 5".

Readjusting the strap of my Versace shoulder bag, I push a curtain of my blue-black Asian hair, and shake my thoughts away, and rush through the ticket counter and then to my plane. I was seated in Seat 4B on the business class aisle of a luxurious Pan American 747.

As I settled on my seat, I observed the people around me. The man and the beautiful lady seated in front of me. They were talking something like a honeymoon in Paris. "Ah", I thought, "they were honeymooners!" The somebody behind me, with a hoarse, baritone voice said, "Political scientists classify the killings in Mindanao as the usual purge, that occurs after a change in power or of the hunger of power. It happened with your American Revolution, too"

"Oh, my", I thought, "not again. My country had gone crazy again." Then I realized that I already missed my hometown ... the green, green grass of home and all the memories it buried for fifteen years since the tragic death of my entire family. "Someday, I'll be in the Philippines again", I decided.

"Excuse me missu", I looked up and saw a puffy, middle-aged woman standing impatiently before me as she indicated the window seat. "That's my seat, girl!", she said with an English accent.

I twisted aside so she could get past me. "She looked like my mother." I mused. "Great day for a flight huh?" she asked gently. I just nodded, not wanting to start any conversation, bearing in mind what my father told me about not talking with complete strangers.

But she continued in a motherly voice, "You know, I married late, just three years ago and my first-born, my three-years old unico hijo is waiting for me. I haven't seen him for a couple of years because of my job. That's why I am s excited to go home and hug him in my arms again. You'll know it when you become a mother yourself." She smiled and asked, "What's your name child?"

"Leanne", I said with a smile and then she settled dreamily in her seat, perhaps thinking about her baby.

"Flight 747 is about to take off, please fasten your seat belt.", the plane attendant announced while the plane started trudging the runway.

The flight had been smooth since we left the airways. But, suddenly, a thug, a series of bumps and a deafening blast filled the air. Commotion was all around. Everybody panicked. The stewards tried their best to pacify the passengers, but to no avail. I held my breath and prayed, "Oh God, please not today ... not this way". I felt a sudden fear inside me. Then the woman beside me started trembling. She rummaged her bag and found the rosary. But the plane started trembling. Another bump, and a thunderous blast that seemed so endless, shake the plane into turbulence. Then something hard and heavy from above me, dropped. I managed to glance at the woman beside me. She was lying beneath the fallen air vent, her hands stretched as if asking for help. Then I remembered mother during the accident, she was begging for help but to no avail.

"I have to help her!", I decided. But I can't move. My feet are aching, and I wasn't certain, which was worse, the pain in my ankle, or my terror?

The plane somersaulted like a possessed monster, careering down the sky at the speed of light, cutting in and out of the bulk of clouds, and turning up and down against the gust of wind. 

I gasped and closed my eyes, so tightly, that it hurts. "Please", I heard the woman's voice again, "Please don't let me die like this." She was already wet and bloody, and so darned scared. The she looked at me, pleading. "Please helppp me... I still ... have to ... live. I have to ... see my ... baby grow. Please ... God ... let me see my baby .. again ... Le...a..n..ne, pleaseee... helppp ... meee."



Then suddenly, I felt like there was a fierce storm. A giant wave had struck the ship and it was sinking. "I'm drowning",  thought, "I've got to get out of here!"

I flung out my arms and hit something. It was the side of a lifeboat, rocking and swaying. I tried to stand up, but hit my head on something hard. But in a moment of clarity, I remembered where I was. My face and hair dripped with perspiration. I felt giddy and my body is burning up. How long had I been unconscious? It was only an hour's flight. Was the plane about to land? "No!", I thought, "It's all right, I'm just having a nightmare, I'm in my bed in San Francisco, asleep. I'll call for my doctor."

I stopped. I could not breath, but I tried to glance and struggle upward to reach for the dying woman. But I sank down, my body leaden.

The plane hit a packet of turbulence and I was thrown against the fallen air vent. I lay there, dazed, desperately trying to concentrate. "How much time do I have to save myself ... and the woman?" I wavered between hellish and painful reality. "The woman. Somehow I have to save the woman. But first ... first ... I have to get myself out of here."

I touched my aching head and found that it was a terrible effort to lift it. "Not enough air!", I whispered. "I must have air!". I reached around the edge of my seat and fumbled for the lock of the safety belt, found it and unlocked it. It seemed to take an eternity. The gust of wind became cooler. I was freezing. My whole body begun to shake, and the constant jolting of the plane increased my dizziness. "I've got to hold on.", I thought. So I forced myself to concentrate. "What am I doing here? Something important ... yes ... the woman."

My vision was blurred and everything is moving in and out of focus. I'm not going to make it.

The plane dipped suddenly and I was hurled to the floor, scraping my hands on the sharp metal tracks. I held on while the plane bucked, and when it seemed to settle down, I forced myself to my feet again. The roaring of the jet engines was mixed with the roaring in my head. The woman. I must find and save the woman.

I stood there trying to remember what to do next. It was such an effort to concentrate. If could just lie down and sleep for a few minutes. I'd be fine. All I need is some sleep - but there was no time. We could die at any minute.

The plane began a stepper angle of descent. I know it would crash down at any moment. "I have to make a decision. There's something I should do to save myself and the woman."

But, the roaring in my head made it impossible to think. I remembered something like "If accidents happen, all you've got to do is focus. Don's panic".

It had sounded so easy then, sitting in the cool room of my college, listening to my first-aid instructor. Now it is impossible. I had no more strength left. The plane would crash and we would all be dead -- and I would be dead without doing something to save somebody ... just as I haven't done to save my mother.  "I'm sorry, I'm really very, very sorry..."

Then I felt a jolt beneath my feet as the plane touch the ground, and then another, and I was slammed backwards as the plane was thrust into the reverse, and a sound as loud as thunder filled the air, and balls of fire flashed like lighting.

My head was smashed against the floor, and I know it's all over. Silently, I prayed, "Oh God! At this very moment, I commend to You!"


(08.30.2000)
Idea from Eng'r PRC

Saturday, July 16, 2011

That Which Makes Up Friendship

Friendship, by definition, is a heart-flooding feeling that can happen to any two persons who are caught up in the act of being themselves together, and who like what they see and do.  It is the inexpressible feeling of being safe with a person, having neither to weight thoughts nor to measure words.  The feeling is deeper than companionship - one can hire a companion, but never a friend.  It is never one-sided.

Friendship ... we know it when we feel it, but we can spend years to put it into words.

Suppose you are to complete this sentence in twenty-five words or less: "A friend is someone who ____." What would you say? How would you summarize your friend that way?

Most often, people complete the sentence with, "A friend is someone who is loyal". But, would it mean that he should walk in with you when everyone walks out? Would you take it to mean that he should be someone whom you can rely on and cry on ... whom you can trust?

Definitely yes! Those qualities should be found in a loyal friend - qualities that almost everyone ask for.

We both need "buffers" and "boosters" in our lives: buffers to reduce the pain of negative-response-producing events, and boosters to amplify the pleasure of positive-attitude-enhancing experiences.

Yet, some friend's notion of loyalty is to stand beside in adversity.  But the fact is, a friend can never be considered loyal when he only when soars along side with you when you're flying high. Neither can he be considered loyal when he only acts the "Big Savior" when you are needy and weak. Perhaps, a true friend should go hand-in-hand with you in times of troubles and triumphs. He should be ready to shout "Cheers!" and whisper "Cheer up" if time requires him to.

However, loyalty does not necessarily mean that one must go with his friend in doing things beyond what is right, just for the sake of being loyal. A loyal friend should drag him away from that "dark path", instead, rather than going with him and share the evil doings.  Loyalty needs many years to develop within the bounds of friendship. It needs both the "sugars and salts" of life to examine its authenticity, thus it takes two individuals to cherish it - where friendship could grow, develop and succeed.

Perhaps all of us need loyal friends to mold a true friendship, thus we should know first what loyalty means, and then, we could learn to be loyal to gain loyal friends.




(Date Unknown)
Published in the SJIT Collegian
Vol. XI, No. 2, Nov to March 1995-1996 issue

Saturday, July 9, 2011

On Achieving Greatness

"Always give your best ... never be discouraged ... never be petty. Always remember, out of sufferings have emerged the strongest souls."

How often I used to come across such advise in all my readings. At least, it seemed often to me - too often. For a while, I accept it as being a good advice, yet to follow it is not just that easy.

Aiming and achieving greatness is just getting a hammer, but getting yourself pounded by that hammer. You should sacrifice and undergo sorrows and pains. You should carry your cross on your shoulders ... just like the square bamboos of Japan.

You might be wondering why I mentioned bamboos - and why the square bamboos of Japan? They were also round as ours are. They got the monocot leaves and grow tall, too. 

Chimonobambusa quadrangularis
The Japanese Square Bamboos are not just ordinary bamboos, but they were - once upon a time. Can you guess how they became square?

Well, they simply undergo some processes, transforming them into what they are now. During which they were still sprouts, they were being molded by putting four woods side by side, or cementing them squarely after applying some kind of acid solution.

During harvest time, all bamboos will be cut down for sale. The ordinary ones will be sold cheaply, and would be commonly used for fencing purposes. But the square ones would be so precious and would surely have devil-to-pay prices. They would be used as ornaments or pillars, and would be placed not in a corner, but in places where too many eyes would wander.  They could surely attract attentions the way they keep your mind wondering upon knowing that they exist.

Life, my dear friends, is just like those bamboos. We must undergo the transformation processes for us to be molded and fitted to what we want us to be. We should occasionally take some knocks to make us stronger enough to ruin the barriers towards greatness. We should feel the pain of the acidic problems  as it clings and burns our being, so that we could be squarely great in one way or another. We must be ready to accept criticisms, good or bad, to make us aware whether or not we are trudging the right path. We should also welcome and accept corrections to make us perfectly right. Finally we should trust God, for He alone, knows where we are heading to.  We should also inculcate in our minds that "God doesn't give trials beyond what we can bear. And if He does, He will provide a way out, so that we can stand up against it." (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Thus, greatness comes, not when all things go well for us. But greatness comes when we are really tested, when we take some knocks, some disappointments ... when sadness comes. Because only if we have been in the deepest valley can we ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain.


(Date Unknown)
Published in the Purview Section of the SJIT Collegian
Vol. XI No. 1, June - Oct 1995 issue